Do you have a hard time saying to “NO” to people? Do you often sacrifice your own needs to accommodate other people? Do you have a hard time setting firm boundaries?
Are you unhappy but unable to leave?
Does your marriage or relationship take up your thoughts and energy? Are you the one that is constantly making sacrifices in your relationship? Then you may be in a codependent relationship.
The term “codependency” was coined a few decades ago in the context of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) to acknowledge and support partners of alcoholics and chemical-dependents who were intertwined in the destructive lives of those they loved.
Today we are exploring:
- What is codependency?
- What are the symptoms of codependency?
- What’s the origin of codependency?
- How does shame play a part in codependency?
- How does codependency and shame affect relationship?
- And of course we are talking about recovery-What are some of the steps required for recovery?
About my guest
Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and expert author on relationships and codependency. She’s counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches internationally. Her books include Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You and Codependency for Dummies and seven ebooks, including: 10 Steps to Self-Esteem, How To Speak Your Mind – Become Assertive and Set Limits, “I’m Not Perfect – I’m Only Human” – How to Beat Perfectionism, and Freedom from Guilt and Blame – Finding Self-Forgiveness. They’re available on Amazon, other online booksellers and her website, www.whatiscodependency.com, where you can get a free copy of “14 Tips for Letting Go.” She’s a sought after speaker in media and at professional conferences.
Resources and links
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