On Acceptance and Perfectionism

Acceptance is one of the basic emotional needs. How do you show acceptance to your child?  Why is parental acceptance such a significant influence on the child? What is a childhood memory you have of really being heard and seen? What is a way that you connect with your child deeply? Those special moments often happen in the simplest moments. Those times you let your child direct the activity and your attention is FULLY on them. It’s not about the quantity of time, it’s the QUALITY. You only need 10 or 15 minutes of full attention to connect deeply. ❤️

Key points:

• The complex relationship between a Mother and Daughter
• Love languages and how they help to connect and ground a relationship
  
• The power of genuine listening and interest
• It’s difficult for true connection to thrive when you don’t feel good enough
• The power of bringing your awareness forward and healing your own past to parent your best
• Unspoken language, even just a look, can convey a lack of acceptance

Conditional love, that’s what becomes apparent in relationships based on excessive perfectionism and lack of acceptance. Some traits and patterns that can show up in your child are: 

• Low self esteem
• Anger issues
• Anxiety

What are signs of perfectionism. It can be different for everyone, but here are a few examples:

• Sometimes it’s perseverating on things being perfect
• Inability to finish a task for fear it won’t be perfect
• Over obsessing on alphabetizing or matching items
• Procrastination

Are you noticing you may be a perfectionist? 

About my guest

Shenaaz Moos is a Registered Counsellor, conscious parenting coach and mom of three children from South Africa.

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