Do you know how to set boundaries? Do you know WHAT your own boundaries are? Do you often say ‘yes’ when you mean ‘no’?
We learn boundaries as we are growing up, and then as adults we each have to develop what works for us as an evolving individual. What are your values? Do your boundaries reflect these values?
Anna and Sarri both share personal stories and the truth that sometimes stating boundaries may NOT get approval from others. We struggle to speak up when fear of judgement comes in.
When creating boundaries you also need to let go of the stories you create around how OTHER people perceive you. You are not responsible for other people’s opinions of you, you also cannot know what others are thinking. Assuming the worst scenario in your mind creates a place for the fear to grow!
When setting a boundary it is NOT about other people, ‘I want people to behave a certain way’ …. it’s about what YOU can control, and ways that make you feel more at peace.
Are you struggling to connect to your truth? Do you feel guilt around boundaries?
About my guest
Sarri Gilman, LMFT is a psychotherapist, author, and workshop presenter. She is the author of Transform your Boundaries® (2014) and Naming and Taming Overwhelm for Healthcare and Human Service Providers (2017). She has a private therapy/counseling practice on Whidbey Island and devotes the rest of her time traveling and teaching on the subject of boundary recovery and SoulCollage®.
Sarri has raised 4 kids, (3 work in healthcare), is happily married and has a chihuahua named Coco. She loves knitting and cross-country skiing.
Resources and links
- Website
- YouTube
- TEDx Talk, Good Boundaries Free You
- Transfrom Your Boundaries by Sarri Gilman
Other episodes you may enjoy:
- What’s Your Attachment Style?
- How to Live Intentionally
- {Coaching} Setting healthy Boundaries without Feeling Guilty
- What is Codependency?
- Mindful Communication: How to Find Your Voice, Speak Your Truth and Listen Deeply
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